Coconut Generation

The Next Generation of Asian Indians

Sexuality & Spirituality of College students August 28, 2009

Filed under: Culture,United States,Youth — Sam George @ 4:08 pm

Summer is over. Fall session has begun in most colleges in the country. Many parents have send off their sons and daughters to college for the first time and are yet to recover from the shock how their ‘baby’ has grown up so fast or how he/she is going to survive in the college!

College students are more sexually active than previous generations and there is growing fascination to spirituality. How do these young people reconcile their spiritual longings with sexual freedom on campus? Do they connect the dots at all? Why not?

Recently, I came across this book (Sex and the Soul byDonna Freitas) and added it to my ‘to read list.’ Read some reviews here – USA Today, Amazon. She is professor of religion in Boston Univeristy and has extensively researched across American university campuses. Check it our for soul cover

Indian American teens who have grown up in very traditional homes and parents who shyed away from talking about sex openly, are generally confused about sex. They have only heard “don’t do it … no one is going to marry you then.” Parents are harder on girls than boys. Media and peers often holds to values that contracdict their parents’ values and what is really good for them. The new found freedom and lack of accountability in college dorms only makes it worse.

Especially it is harder for girls who repress their sexuality until they go away to college have not developed a conviction about sexual ethics. Getting pregnant or catching sexually transmitted disease are not the only reason why young people should abstain from sex.

Quoting from the book, “Teenagers usually follow their parents’ religious preferences until college. Then, students shift to an uncertain and lonely spirituality, which doesn’t give them the resources to deal with demeaning sexual practices. Young women come off worst: They’re expected to conform to pornographic masculine fantasies, but also achieve academic success and self-confidence.”

The profound connection of sexuality and spirituality are often overlooked. Deep longing of the soul lead them to experiment with sex, but often left unfulfilled. Passion when finds its expression in casual sexual practices leaves our young people more confused than before. Jumping from bed to bed or dorm rooms to another is a poor solution to  deep longing of the soul.

Not to mention how the baggage of premarital sex affects married life and fulfilling sexual experiences. Many of marriage problems I see among young Indian American families could traced back to their college lives – inadequate relationship skills, past relational blunders, premarital sexual involvement and dysfunctional childhood homes. Momentary pleasure lead to lifetime of pain. It surely is not worth it!


4 Responses to “Sexuality & Spirituality of College students”

  1. Annony Says:

    In America and across the world, sex drive among teen agers have gone up by 160% due to the bad media and internet porn.
    In USA for the most part the sex culture is defined by european americans which is quiet openly a free for all, which basically means that a white teen age girl will engage in sex with anyone around the family ( incestual brother, sister, cousins etc) or with neighbor ( boyfriend, girlfriend ) or with school buddies in a very discrete fashion. Other races particularly blacks (AA’s, Mulatto hispanic blacks) to some extent other asians (for ex: chinese girls like screwing a white dude) also engage a lot without much moral thought. They go out and get banged up in the Car, House, Parks and come back home to parents home as if nothing happened.
    The Negros, Mulatto and White pigs are eager and ready to screw any girl , anywhere and this doesn’t mean guys from other races are decent but the above three category are worst in screwing a girl quickly.
    Now, given this situation , the people of middle east and east asian reserved background will have a VERY HARD time holding their GIRL in check and control in school, college or wherever. This is simply because the white fuckheads set the standard of social norm, which is spread the legs and get screwed. It is like a HEAVEN for the ugly black african people since they don’t have any decent cultures they are ready to screw with their big dicks. Not to mention, all other races simply have to follow this horrible social environment.
    Although older whites hates black interracial, they succumb to the reality of open sex policy.

  2. maria Says:

    Those same young Indian couples are going through marital problems because they didn’t develop healthy relationships with others, casual or intimate (there need not be any sexual activity for a relationship to be intimate). With their parents banning any friendships with the opposite sex, how are they supposed to interact healthily with their marraige partner? This is more evident in girls as their parents are more watchful over their activities.

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